Are you avoiding Valentines Day again?
I was shocked to find out how many singles go out of town with friends to avoid having to deal with the fact that they are "still" not in a relationship. I truly believe that singles really don't have enough "Skin" in the game of love. WE have to have jobs or some way of financially taking care of ourselves. That is NOT an option. But, love is somehow put on the back burner because people view it as an optional item. We have to breathe or we'll die. Eat or we'll die. But love? Well, for those people out there who say: I've tried everything. I say: Sorry loves, you havent' tried "everything" That is one of those really large statements like Always and Never. NO one could possibly try "everything" That's the kind of lie that we say to ourselves to make us feel temporarily better because we still don't have the relationship that we want.
Relationships make great mirrors for all of us to grow, prosper, and enjoy life at a deeper level. Are they perfect? No but they can be rewarding. Nothing keeps us outside our comfort zone like relating to men or women.
Most singles never dig beneath the surface to find and develop true love.
One of my clients recently revealed that because she saw her mother repeatedly choose bad relationships it stops her from finding love herself. She saw he mother's relationship pattern was to find men who would physically abuse her. When people have a sabotaging pattern like this...it's time to do some serious work around it rather than avoiding it. If your relationship patterns seem to take you back to the starting block in life and love then wake up. Nothing will change until you do. You will fall in love again, only to be disappointed that this woman or man really doesn't meet your needs.
In order for your love life to improve you must learn about love barriers. Love barriers are made up of pesky subconscious beliefs that pull all your love strings. If you don't take charge of this area of your life, I guarantee that you won't be satisfied with your life as a whole. You will instead find yourself at risk of falling in love again with the wrong person just different colour eyes and hair.
Take a look at my other blog posting called: Terminally Single (tm) at www.MyDramaFreeRelationship.com It's eye opening on why some people may never ever find love in their lifetime. Are you "Terminally Single" (tm) Find out by going to the Love Blog there.
Make a pact with yourself that this time next year, you will be in a rewarding relationship. Find some "skin in the game" and make it important to devote time and energy into growing in this area of your life. If you don't then you might fall in love. It does happen. But then... if you don't hire a professional to catch you when you fall, you could wake up yet again wondering why much hasn't changed for the better. And that's what makes us feel like "we've tried everything" and nothing works. Really? Is that the best excuse that you can find?
All the rewarding things in life are found outside our comfort zones. Make it a point to spend as much time as you can on the outside of your own zone and play full out. You don't have to go it alone in love. Hire a love coach who can help catch you when your unconscious love patterns start to show up and sabotage you.